Reflect on This

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One of the greatest tools to move ahead in your career is also one of the best tools to improve your life in general—personal reflection.

Not as sexy as an MBA, but there you have it.

Reflection is a practice that transcends religious boundaries and has been around since ancient times. And, trust us on this one, the ancients were onto something.

Whether during the observance of Ramadan, Easter, or Passover in March and April of 2024, each of the major monotheistic religions encourages its followers to pause from their daily routines and reflect on their lives. This universal call to reflection underscores its importance and relevance in our lives.

You might think that reflecting is all self-help mumbo-jumbo. However, research has shown that people taking an honest look at themselves, habits, and behaviors, as well as developing a practice of gratitude, has overall positive impacts for people.

We have found one of the key success Pathfinders is the ability to reflect, learn, and grow.

This is great, but how do you develop a personal reflection practice outside of a religious context?

Before we offer some ideas, we have to be very clear—there is No Wrong Way to do this.

Despite what the books—or even this column might imply—there is no wrong way to go about your personal reflection. The key is to do it often and, in the best case, develop a habit—it will pay big dividends.

While we like mystics and gurus just fine, not many of us are cut out for sitting still for hours in the monastic tradition—so we will not suggest anything severe. Take what you like from our suggestions and forget the rest. Experiment, adapt, change up—whatever works for you.

With that out of the way, here are some suggestions:

Create or Find a Reflective Space: The first step in establishing a reflection practice is to find a quiet, comfortable space where you can be alone with your thoughts. This could be a cozy corner of your home, a peaceful spot in nature, or any place that feels safe and tranquil. Or, find a few that work for you. The idea here is the space can help you get in that reflective frame of mind.

Don’t forget to silence your computer, phone, and smartwatch.

Start Slow: If this is something you are not used to doing, it will take practice, like developing a muscle. Start slow, maybe 5 minutes a day. Then, increase it to 10 minutes, etc. The slow approach will help you get over any earlier resistance and help improve your chances of sticking with your reflection practice.

Set Aside Regular Time: Consistency is key. Dedicate a specific time each day or week for reflection. Whether it’s in the morning, an hour on Sunday afternoons, or just a few moments before bed, establishing a routine will help make reflection a habit.

Again, play around and see what works for you and your schedule.

Choose Your Reflection Tools: Some people prefer journaling as a way to articulate their thoughts and feelings, while others might find solace in meditation or mindfulness practices. Experiment with different tools and techniques to discover what resonates with you.

Reflect on What?

Here are some questions that can help you get started:

  • What am I grateful for in my life right now? Gratitude can shift your focus from what’s lacking to what’s abundant, fostering a positive mindset.
  • What challenges have I faced recently, and how did I overcome them? Reflecting on challenges and your responses to them can provide insights into your resilience and problem-solving skills.
  • What are my most significant achievements in the past year/month/week? This question helps you recognize your successes and the strengths you leveraged to achieve them.
  • What habits do I want to change, and why? Identifying habits that don’t serve you well and understanding why you want to change them can set the stage for meaningful transformation.
  • How have my relationships influenced my life recently? Considering the impact of relationships can help you appreciate supportive ones and reconsider or improve those that are challenging.
  • What goals did I set that I haven’t accomplished yet, and what held me back? This question encourages you to assess your goals, understand obstacles, and adjust your strategies or objectives accordingly.
  • In what areas of my life do I feel most balanced or imbalanced? Why? Analyzing balance in your life can highlight areas of neglect or overemphasis, guiding you toward a more harmonious lifestyle.
  • How do my actions align with my core values and beliefs? When people are out of alignment with their values in work or in relationships, it causes a lot of stress. Where they are aligned, it can great joy and satisfaction.
  • What am I avoiding by staying in my comfort zone, and what steps can I take to move beyond it? Reflecting on the limitations of your comfort zone can motivate you to take risks and pursue growth opportunities.
  • What does success mean to me, and how can I redefine it to be more aligned with my personal vision? Reevaluating your definition of success can help ensure that you’re pursuing goals that truly matter to you, rather than those imposed by external influences.

These questions can lead to profound insights and actionable steps for personal development. Remember, the goal of personal reflection is not to judge yourself harshly but to approach your thoughts and feelings with curiosity and compassion.

Navigating the Reflection Process

As you delve into your reflective practice, it’s essential to approach the process with an open mind and a compassionate heart. Here are some strategies to enrich your reflective journey:

  • Be Honest and Open: The effectiveness of reflection hinges on your willingness to be sincere with yourself. Embrace vulnerability and confront your thoughts, feelings, and behaviors with honesty and openness.
  • Accept and Release: Reflection often brings forth emotions and memories, both positive and negative. Learn to acknowledge and accept your feelings, then gently release them. This process fosters healing and emotional growth.
  • Embrace Imperfection: Perfection is not the goal of reflection. It’s about exploration, understanding, and acceptance. Be patient with yourself, and recognize that growth is a continuous journey.
  • Seek Insights, Not Answers: Reflection is more about asking the right questions than finding definitive answers. It’s a process of exploration that can lead to insights and revelations over time.

Embarking on this reflective journey can transform your relationship with yourself and the world around you. It’s an investment in your personal development and a testament to the strength and resilience of the human spirit.

Remember, this isn’t about getting it right; it’s not about reaching a destination; it’s about embracing the journey itself, with all its twists, turns, and revelations.

Since people have been doing it for thousands of years, you will be in good company on the journey.

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